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Habit 4: Think Win-Win
The Habit of Mutual Benefit

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
The Habit of Mutual Benefit

People who think win-win believe that there is plenty for everybody and that one person’s success in not achieved at the expense of others - win-lose.
 
Kid Language
Everyone Can Win:  I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others’ Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives.
 
Ways to practice Think Win-Win:
  • Ask an older person what the golden rule is. After you know, try it out on someone.
  • Try to go one whole day without sulking, pouting, or feeling sorry for yourself.
  • The next time you want to argue or fight with someone about who should get the best toy, ask, “How can I make you happy too?”
  • Make a “wish poster”.  Start by drawing a line down the middle.  On one side, cut and paste magazine pictures of things you want (like an ant farm).  On the other side, cut and paste pictures of things your mom or dad want (like a clean room).  Together, look at your “wish poster”. See how you can work with each other to make both your wishes and your parents’s wishes come true.